Public speaking is hard

Public speaking is one of people’s biggest phobias. Public speaking is difficult because we have expectations as an audience, and expectations as a speaker. People try to protect themselves by either avoiding public speaking or by struggling against speech anxiety .You would never buy an airplane with no experience or knowledge of flying and attempt to fly it. Yet people who have not yet learned the craft of public speaking often attempt to do the equivalent of this. Most people aren't afraid of public speaking. They're afraid of public embarrassment. Ask yourself; what makes you think it is difficult? Only you know why. Have you tried it? Identify what went wrong and identify how you can improve from it. Something can only be difficult when you don’t try. You also need to allow yourself to ask for help. Don’t be afraid about it; there is nothing wrong in asking rather than pretending you know something when you don't. Allow yourself to fail sometimes, because if you keep on allowing yourself to give up easily when things get tough then you won’t be able to grow and improve. People should be nervous and unhappy approaching a speech when they know in their dark hearts that what they have to say is uninteresting and simply wasting everyone’s time, including their own, so always try to make your speech interesting. If you know that you are going to speak something interesting in your speech than automatically it will create confidence in you to speak without any fear.

Here are some strategies most of us used while public speaking:

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        We End the speech as soon as possible

          We Avoid any pauses or interruptions during the speech

           Avoid contact with the audience

 

           
   Fearful speakers create trouble for themselves when they don't embrace the role of Speaker. Instead, they try to be not perfect speaker. They try to "get through" the experience without committing themselves to the role of Speaker. They read, they drone, they overlook the audience, and they focus mainly on resisting their fear. The result of this resistance is, typically, that it gives you more public speaking anxiety, not less - just the opposite of what you want. Peoples who have fear of speaking in public speak very fast. Talking fast interferes with your breathing. Instead of breathing comfortably, you breathe in a short, shallow manner, or you might even hold your breath. This gives you the sensation of running out of air and being unable to breathe, a common fear in this situation, and one that greatly increases fear of public speaking. All this hurrying reduces the chance that your audience can enjoy your speech. It creates a barrier between you and them, which might have been your intention, but this will actually increase your fear. The less of a connection you have with them, the more unfriendly they will seem to you, and the more speech anxiety you will experience.

Fearful speakers often try to ignore the audience, hoping this will decrease their speech anxiety. For instance, lots of fearful speakers avoid eye contact with the audience. This prevents you from noticing any audience reaction. You won't notice when people seem more interested, or have questions. When you have no audience contact, you focus on your own thoughts. And if you're a fearful speaker, your thoughts are virtually guaranteed to be far more negative, and unrealistic, than anything your audience might think or say.

Be prepared. If you want to overcome your fear of public speaking, get yourself organized ahead of time. Try to visit the venue where you will be giving your talk, and carefully review any and all equipment beforehand. And learn all you can about your topic well in advance. This makes it less likely that you will say something incorrect or go off track. If you do stray slightly, knowing your topic well will increase your odds of recovering quickly.

Practice makes perfect. Don’t just “give” your complete presentation to a volunteer audience once. Do it several times with friends, family members, or anyone else you feel comfortable with. Ask for feedback and review everyone’s comments carefully. You may even want to make a video of your speech so you can see it and make any revisions that you think will make it better. Pay attention to the material at hand, rather than your audience. Generally, an audience is focusing on the new information they are listening to rather than how it is presented. Don’t be afraid of the sounds of silence. When you momentarily lose track of what you are saying, you may feel nervous and feel that you have been silent forever. But it’s probably no longer than a few seconds, so simply take a few slow, deep breaths and proceed.  Remind yourself that even if the =figured that the pause was planned and they won’t mind a bit. It is said that ‘practice makes man perfect’ so keep on practicing practice makes you perfect to speak in public. Being a good public speaker can help you advance your career, grow your business, and form strong collaborations. It can help you promote ideas and move people to action on issues that affect them directly and society at large.

  To do any of these things well requires a fair amount of standing in front of an audience and delivering a pitch, an idea, or a body of work. And sometimes the only thing that stands between you and your audience is fear.

Glossophobia 



 
 A really cool and geeky name for the fear of public speaking  appears when you are performing or expecting to perform an oral presentation or a speech in front of other people. Fear of public speaking is frequently but incorrectly cited as people’s biggest fear. Fear of public speaking is often not people’s biggest fear; there are many other things that people are really scared of. Nevertheless, fear of public speaking is very common; approximately 25 percent of people report experiencing it.